Strength for the Hard Days

We are in the throes of missing our college boy around here. He plans on coming home for his birthday. Last night my husband looked at the calendar and said, “Three more weeks?! That’s so long!” This is typically the time when the parents of the newly-flown struggle. Their kids are settling into their new environment. They don’t call and only text if they want money! They may not answer our calls or texts. (Which does nothing for our overactive anxiety.) And if your child is in boot camp, you may not even be allowed to call! Even now, the […]

How I Survived My Son’s First Year Away From Home – Without Annoying My Friends

Sending my eldest off to college was hard, I’m not gonna lie. I dreaded it his whole senior year and had all the usual angst-filled thoughts (“this is his last…”,”we won’t do this as a whole family ever again”, “he won’t be here for this next year” ). The whole time I was trying not to be a drama queen in front of my friends who weren’t there yet, or who had already survived. No one likes the obsessive droanings of a first-time parent or a new college student’s parent! Right?

That time of year

Because I’m taking my son to school this weekend, I’m rerunning this post from a year ago – it is still true, especially this crazy year! Enjoy, and I will see you again next week. There’s a unique melancholy for the parents of an almost-grown child at back-to-school time. Those ungrateful teens have no sympathy for our desire to help! They want to go get their own clothes and office supplies. No longer do they smile cheesily for the first day of school picture — you’re fortunate to get a forced grin. They may sneak out just to avoid it, […]

It’s Coming, Parents of Preteens!

Ready or not, the day you drop off your kiddo at either college or boot camp or first apartment comes quicker than you think it will. Dr. Harley Rothbart, author of No Regrets Parenting, has done the math – there are 940 weekends between birth and 18. That’s a lot of pressure to “make memories”. And preteens are hard, we all know that, right?  They don’t want anything to do with you at that age.  Just when you are beginning to get sentimental that high school is coming, and then graduation, and then… Boom! They turn into creatures from outer space that […]

Sidewalk chalk and Stain-Glassed Windows

Remember the days we nagged and ordered and pleaded for our kids to get off their devices and be creative, or go outside, or just do something else! Experts have told us that it is good for our kids to be bored, so they can learn to amuse themselves and so that their creativity can be whetted. Now they have all the time in the world and the world as they (and we) know it has changed. What a blessing in disguise! (Full disclosure: my youngest is still on his device way too much, but the “no electronics until you […]